The decision to include children in your wedding is just that: a decision. You get to choose whether or not you want children at your ceremony and/or your reception.
If you want a grown up wedding with a formal dinner, you get to have that. There’s nothing wrong with that choice. There are people who won’t be happy with that decision. And, it’s not their wedding. As I’ve worked with couples over the years, I think that some of the most important work I’ve done with people is to help them get clear that this is THEIR wedding.
Wanting a grown up party doesn’t make you a selfish person. It doesn’t mean youu hate children, it just means that you have chosen a way of celebrating your life that doesn’t include childish interests.
My major concern about your wedding ceremony is that you have chosen a style of wedding that reflects who you are as individuals and as a couple.
If you’re looking at a formal ceremony and an elegant intimate dinner, children are not going to have a good time at that party. If there are many people from out of town who are bringing children, it may be that you might want to make arrangements for children if you have the resources, or create a list of possibilities for childcare and offer them to parents with kids who are attending your wedding.
Adult parties are fun. They should not be a guilty pleasure. It’s good for parents to have time away from their children… time when they’re not working. So if you want a childfree wedding, think of it as a gift you’re giving your community. And remember, it’s your wedding, you should do what is right for you.
Your love deserves nothing less!
Believing in you and your love,