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Physical Intimacy: Get Ready for Your Wedding & Your Marriage

Why not start out with what always looks like the hard one? But I’m not going to start where you thought! Sex, I believe is about to get it’s own category. Yep, rather than 6, I’m moving to 7! and I’m still arranging things in my head about sex (and you know sex starts in the head!) so, you’re just going to have to wait for sex! Damn! isn’t that always the way!

But physical intimacy in marriage is more than just sex. As you start the wedding planning marathon (there’s some training!) and get ready for your wonderful marriage here are some things to be looking at.

Your Physical Health. Go to the docs. Get your check-ups. Enter marriage dealing with or having dealt with any physical ailments you might have. This includes Eyes, Teeth and Body.

Your Physical Fitness. You’re pledging your life to your beloved. Make sure you have one! Start getting in shape. You don’t need to lose 5,000 pounds, you need to be strong. (ok, some of us may need to lose weight, but not for the wedding, but because we want to be healthy. binge dieting to fit in wedding dresses? not healthy!)

Your Space needs: How do you share space? How does your partner. Work this out! It’s helpful to figure out how to share closets, bathrooms and work space. Who needs things picked up and who doesn’t and who’s going to do it?

Your Privacy needs. What needs do you have for being alone and what needs do you have for being with your beloved alone and then for being in a crowd?

Your Sleep needs. How much sleep do you need? How about your partner? How do you sleep together? How big a bed (or yes, even beds) do you need?

Tip: Take a look at who you are and what your physical rhythms are and figure out how to mesh them with your partners. Physical compatibility is a huge thing. You’re going to be sharing space with your beloved for a very long time!