Build Community Support with Your Wedding Ceremony

Make a space in your wedding ceremony for your community to promise their support and celebration of your marriage.

Ask them to say “Yes!” to your love.

Help them understand that you are looking for their support and celebration over the entire course of your marriage. Their promise to support you will change your lives. (it will also enrich theirs!) The clearer you are about what you need the more easily they can support you.

Tip: Turn the objection question into a question about support and transform  it into a useful segment of the wedding ceremony. Be deliberate about building the support you need.

Begin the Search for Community Support with your Invitation

The first step in your campaign to build support for your marriage is to create an Invitation that explains to your guests

  1. that they are your beloved friends.
  2. that you want them to witness and celebrate your wedding vows.
  3. that you will want them to support you and your marriage in the future.

Tip: Invite your Wedding Guests and let them know that they have a vital role to play in your life going forward. They’ll come to your wedding with different expectations of what they will see and what role they will play in your life and marriage.

Use your wedding to solicit support for your Marriage

Marriages do better when supported by a community. Your community came to your wedding wanting to celebrate and support your wedding vows and your marriage. This relationship that is so perfect for you deserves to be celebrated.

Tip: So give your community a chance and they will give you all the support you could ever want. Check back tomorrow for the beginning of some pointers on how you can use different segments of your wedding to build the support you want.

Why Have a Public Wedding Ceremony?

The goal of a wedding ceremony is to produce a lifelong marriage. Your wedding ceremony can establish the work you will do throughout your shared lives as you create your successful union. If designed right, a public ceremony can help you muster the support and encouragement you want to make your marriage easier. Use the right metaphors, ask the right questions and make the right promises to make your ceremony an eternal reminder of the love that brought you together and convinced you to embark on this fabulous, uncertain endeavor.

Eloping may seem simpler. But it can rob you of both sentiment and support that is so helpful when obstacles arise. Keeping the focus on the reason you’re marrying – your great romance – will help you simplify your planning and celebrate what’s important with the people who matter in your life.

Tip: Stay tuned for the seven excellent reasons a public wedding ceremony will make your marriage thrive (and your ceremony much more interesting!)