Last night on Facebook I noticed one of “my” brides celebrating her husband, with whom she was happily keeping promises. I got the goofiest smile on my face.
Just so you know, there is no greater joy than your success as individuals, as couples and as families. Thank you for letting me play a role in celebrating your lives.
Tip: Let’s hear it for Love and its infinite power to change things. And let’s hear it for the daily gratitude that keeps our hearts overflowing.
One of the things we often overlook in wedding ceremonies is the importance of expressing appreciation and gratitude.
You’re getting married to an unbelievable person. If that doesn’t deserve a moment of awestruck wonder and gratitude, what does? It’s an important part of a wedding ceremony.
But equally important is taking the time to thank the people who taught you, to the best of their abilities, to say I love you and to show love. To be love. However mixed up your family, and many are, the fact is, what they wanted most was to love you and see you flourish. For some of those people we have to admit, they only manage that on their best days and they may not have a lot of them.
But most people really do the best they can. Appreciate that. I find two things happen when sincere thanks are expressed:
- Parents’ and families’ hearts are warmed by your gratitude. Warm hearts have room for more love!
- People who are thanked somehow see you as ready to move on to the next phase of your life, in this case your new family. It softens the inevitable transitions of relationship.
Tip: Thank the peope who brought you this far and who will be there for you in the future. (Because if you hadn’t wanted them to be there, you wouldn’t have invited them.) And you have to hope if the relationships are difficult that your thanking them will ease the relationship. So you not only express your gratitude, you also may better those ties. Not a bad thing at all.
Well tomorrow, the time of balance arrives: The Autumn Equinox is here. If you look at the ancient European calendar, we’re already at the middle of fall, limping along toward winter. (The Norse calendar actually only had two seasons and October 31 started winter. I’m not quite ready!)
But Autumn is the Festival of the Third Great Thanksgiving. It is all about celebrating Abundance. (You’ll note that the Canadians celebrate Thanksgiving on the 10th of October, in keeping with the calendar.) Abundance has three great responsibilities:
- Thanksgiving and gratitude. Now is the season of blessing counting. For the next six weeks spend 10 minutes every day counting blessings.
- Sorting. This is a time to get clear about your lives. What do you have in your life that will sustain you? What do you have in your life that delights you? And what do you have in your life that no longer serves you? (and here’s a novel idea, get rid of it!)
- Sharing. Out of our abundance we are enjoined to share with the world. There are so many places where you can share your time, your talents and your treasure (yep, I meant money!). The need is great and you have much to offer. Even some of those things that no longer serve you will serve someone else!
But here in the States, the days are balmy and the nights are cool. Sleep is a wonderful thing! A true sign that fall has arrived, the Bloomsburg Fair started this weekend. There is fried food in my future! And little piggies! Fall, it’s a wonderful thing!
Remember to try and stand an egg on its head around the actual hour of the equinox… sometimes it just works!