Yesterday I wrote that part of planning your holidays and creating holiday traditions is a good way to ensure that your relationship solidifies. So here’s the first of your parlor games for your holiday couples’ party: Kissing Games… no not kissing someone else’s partner. Kissing your own. Practicing PDAs!
Set up some categories: movie kiss, shy kiss, wedding kiss, goofy kiss… and here’s an important one: the first kiss. do you remember what that was like? tell the story. Remember. what other kinds of kisses are important to have?
Icky you say? You know, it’s good to practice the romance and to acknowledge that it’s hard work. It’s good to giggle about it, and to giggle about it with other friends. So many people give up kissing when romance deepens to relationship. Kissing becomes prelude rather than a goal in itself. Remember what it was like when you first started kissing. Somehow that degenerates to Quick pecks. nice, but not a meal in themselves! No, long luxurious kisses will go a long way to making life and marriage sweeter!
Tip: call a party of your favorite couples together for a party and parlor games. hold a kissing contest. Figure out prizes. Laugh a lot. Kiss! Laugh some more. Then when your guests go home find ways to add more kissing to your relationship. It’ll do you a world of good!
OK, I admit it, I’m in love with Jingle Bells. I adore them. I love the sound of beautiful bells in the air. They’re certainly seasonal, So, why not use them at the wedding? Let them take the place of bubbles and that silly glass clinking.
Tip: Be over come with that holiday feeling: Use Jingle Bells! The little ones cost almost nothing and you can get a pretty nice one if you want to hand out a decorated one as your favor. (by decorated, I mean decorated with a lovely ribbon.)
Hand them out to your guests when they arrive and suggest they use them when you kiss and then again when you walk down the aisle.
Have guests ring them when you come in the door at the reception and when they want you to kiss. If you haven’t given them to people before, put them in a basket at the cocktail party and ask a couple friends to carry a basket around to hand out to people. The sound is magical!
Hey! What is it? Why have we forgotten that mistletoe thing? It’s your holiday wedding. Hang it everywhere. Give it out as favors. Forget that glass clinking thing. Let people hold up the mistletoe and then you kiss. Then get them back. Hold up your mistletoe and make everyone else kiss. We’ve forgotten how important kissing is. “We’re best friends.” Hey, I have a lot of really good friends. None of them can lay a smacker on me the way my Sweet Pea can. And really, I’m not interested in finding out. But kissing is a lost art. Encourage it. Let your couples remember that they felt this way and got married for a reason too. And there’s no reason why people can’t exchange perfectly appropriate kisses with other people. Parlor games included kissing games for years, even during Victorian Times.
I know, it’s hard for an unmarried person. So work harder at your guest lists! help your friends out! You’re in love, which of your great friends might like your other great friend? Seat them together!
Tip: Buy small packages of of mistletoe as favors and teach people the mistletoe rules (this is a good thing to tuck into the best man or woman speech.) People are old enough to know the rules about appropriate social behavior (and if someone is out of line, there’s nothing more discouraging than an ooh, ugh! said in a carrying kind of voice. It’s much more effective than a smack! and hand a kissing bough onthe dance floor and kissing balls all over the place. Have a good time at your wedding! Giggling at your wedding is generally considered a good thing!