Your Holiday Wedding: Buche de Noël

Have you ever had a Buche de Noël? Oh, my goodness, there is heaven ahead of you, if you have not! It is a rolled chocolate sheet cake with hazlenut-cream filling covered with meringue snow. It is a French (but, of course!) food version of the Yule Log. You can even put candles on it to celebrate its tie to the long burning log. The other thing that’s true about it is that it can be cut into day-after-day and not lose its fabulous taste.

I’m particularly partial to it. So partial, in fact that the friend who made our wedding cake last February made this fabulous chocolate hazelnut cake. oh, yum. (I ate cake, Steve ate ganache! Perfect, something for everyone!)

Tip: If you’ve decided to have a holiday wedding, you might as well use the traditional foods to tie your marriage and the holidays together in your minds and in the minds of your community. Use foods that you’re going to want to become traditions in your life. This would be appropriate as a wedding cake or a rehearsal dinner. (And the great thing about something like Buche de Noël is that you only eat it at MidWinter/Christmas/New Year Holiday. So, you won’t be tempted through the rest of the year!

Your Holiday Wedding: Eggnog

Well, while you’re decking the boughs, don’t forget to make the egg nog. It’s a lovely drink and or dessert at your wedding or rehearsal dinner.  egg nog mousse? ooh, very good.

You’re going to have to look up your own recipe because mine is back from the pre-salmonella days. You need to cook the yellow mixture if you’re going to serve it. but it’s a delight. And a great egg nog recipe is one of those things people will remember you for and want to come to your holiday anniversary party.

Tip: Serve a great Egg Nog at your wedding and make it part of your holiday tradition. People will always associate your wedding with that fabulous frothy heart-attack-inducing drink and come around to celebrate your anniversary! And the more attention you and your community give to things like anniversaries, the stronger your marriage becomes. This is good!

Rehearsal Dinners:
What If They Were Fun?

What’s the point of a rehearsal dinner? I know it’s tradition, but why did they evolve? Is it really just to cram one more event into an already overloaded weekend?

Nope: they were designed to build community among the most intimate members of the wedding guests. It grew to include people traveling from a distance, but presumably they were also intimate members of your community, or why else would they have made the trek?

So, is a formal dinner the best way for people to get to know one another? Is it the best way for the bridal pair to prepare for the next day’s activities? For some people it may be. Some communities like being dressed up and mingling over cocktails. And it’s one great chance for friends to see one another. (although I’d advise people to mix up the tables a bit and maybe provide some conversational gambits.)

But you can also have a much more laid back and relaxed gathering and find ways to shuffle folks around. I wrote an article on ezines about a Winter Bonfire. It got a huge response. This tells me folks are looking for something fun.

Tip: as you and your parents consider what you want for a Rehearsal Dinner, consider your crowd and how they like to spend time. Consider what will help one set of parents’ friends meet the other set of parents’ friends and one set of college friends meet the other’s set of college friends. What’s going to help you relax and be prepared for your day tomorrow, confident that your friends know and love you and are beginning to know and like one another?