You’ve heard the Wedding Priestess jump up and down about Elizabeth Oakes before. Well, she’s done it again. She’s just opened up Rose Pedals Bike Weddings. It’s fabulous. If you live in her area, or you’re thinking of taking a quick vacation there, you can married very quickly, very stylishly, and very easily.
Follow Elizabeth and elope on your bicycle! Because she lives in California and has a mysteriosa connection so that she can provide a confidential license which requires no witnesses. Is this sounding good yet? Have you gone to look at this? Check out this fabulous photo by Steven Lam (He does all her photography) and then consider whether a huge wedding and lots of stress or a tiny wedding with just the eensiest number of friends and families (enough for a post-ceremonial bike parade!) is what you really want. And after all, you’ll already be in honeymoon territory!
I keep telling the Rev. Ms. Elizabeth that she’s the bees knees. There are only three things keeping me from swiping this notion: 1) i live in a rural area (although remember, i travel), 2) we’re a lot more seasonal than she is and 3) oh, yeah, i forgot, i can’t ride a bike! Somehow the picture of WP furiously pedaling after you on her tricycle isn’t appealing at all! “Wait, hey guys, wait for me!” Oh, right, I’ve done that. Kudos, Madame Bike Priestessa on your Contessa!
Along with everyone else, I loved this video. 12 million people or so have loved it on YouTube. It says a lot about who this couple is and what a good time they have together.
So does it make Wedding Priestess a bad sport when the first thing she thought was “what were their wedding vows like?” Did they work as hard on the vows that will make and keep them married as they did on their entrance? I hope so. ‘Cause you have to admit they’re a fun couple! They deserve to create a marriage that works!
JK Wedding Entrance
(OK, it does make me a technical idjit that I can’t figure out how to put a video in, doesn’t it… I’ll try and get help. Until then, if you’re one of the ten people in the world who hasn’t seen this video, click on the link and go watch! Enjoy it, it’s fun!)
Tip: Want to spend the rest of your life making great entrances? Get to work on the wedding vows. They’re the blueprint for the rest of your life. Find support here. It’s worth dancing through the pages of the Wedding Vow Workbook. I’ll live in hope that you’ll write spectacular vows and get yourself on the Today Show!
Wedding ceremonies are full of priestly exhortations (don’t you love that phrase? That’s how I like to think of my work!) to love one another. Often the “or else” is included! But it’s very rare to have the couple turn to each other in the ceremony, and say, in a simple and straightforward way, “I love you.”
You know what. You should do that. You should say “I love you and I intend to love you for the rest of my life.” You should hear those words from your beloved said aloud in front of your community. You should offer those words to your beloved in your own voice, not in a formula. Your community should understand how those simple and profound words are the truth of why we have all gathered.
Tip: Your offering of love should be sweet and straightforward. After all, that’s what love is at it’s best. This is a Statement of Intent worth living into. Why not offer one another your best during your wedding ceremony? And then deliver during your marriage!
How does the saying go? Ah, Blaise Pascal: The heart has reasons that reason cannot know.
Your wedding ceremony, and in particular your SOI (Statement of Intent) is your opportunity to tell the world what your heart reasons are for marrying your beloved. They also set you up to remember. There’s something about saying something out loud that makes it more true. Tell your beloved and your beloved community why you’re marrying your beloved:
- What is it about your partner that makes this ridiculous endeavor called marriage not only possible but realistic for each of you?
You will come back to those words. In fact, 5 years from now when you’re slapping your forehead, saying, “why did I do this, why?” Your partner will be able to say to you, “Sweetie, you married me because you LOVE my laid back nature.” Oh, right. I do.
The more you can share with your partner, and your world why you love and respect your beloved, the better the two of you will do in marriage.
Tip: Keep focusing on the good things. Let the world know how special this relationship is. It will help them support you. It will help you revere and honor it. Nothing wrong with any of those things happening to your marriage!
Wedding ceremonies do many important things. But one thing that many miss is having the couple speak in their own language.
I’m a ritual queen. I love it when we use formulaic statements that tie our words to the words and worlds of those who went before. It adds weight to what we do.
But I’m also aware that such an experience is deepened when the participants (that would be sweetpea one and two!) speak in their own voices. It jars the listeners a bit and allows them to enter even more deeply into the ceremony. The informality allows the couple’s voices to be heard. That lodges in a different place, not necessarily sweeter, just different place from the formal pronouncements made by celebrant and couple.
Tell your community (in one sentence):
- What do you intend with this marriage? (Hint: to live happily and healthily ever after with your beloved.
They’ll be charmed. You’ll be glad you said what you wanted for the world to hear because the words will resonate with you forever.
Tip: The Statement of Intent is an under-utilized and very important part of the ceremony. Find the words to tell the world that you intend to be married forever. That’s the only way your community can support you. It will also help you focus on your dream.