You may love Halloween, but in your marriage, there will probably be only about 50 of them. Most of your marriage will be lived as yourself. So resist the overwhelming urge to go ghoulish for your wedding.
You and your beloved want to be married as yourselves, as openly and vulnerably as you can. Camp is fun. Camp it up for your reception if you want (although if you’ve just spent one of the most important half-hours of your lives looking fabulous, why change then?
Tip: You want your guests to dress up? Great. But you, make these promises with a straight (and unpainted!) face. Then next year when you’re looking for costumes, go as a bride and groom. Be the people you most loved being! (and get some use out of that wedding dress!
Neither snow nor sleet nor dark of night is going to keep a bride from making it to her wedding. But let’s be sensible here. (I know, I’m shocked to hear the Wedding Priestess utter the S word myself.
Winter’s coming and you’ve got to get to the church, club, restaurant. Odds are the weather will not be perfect and the ground will be messy, slippy, whatever.
I know you want to capture all those lovely pictures getting dressed at home. Once you do, take the dress off, put your sweats and your boots on (a perfect accompaniment to the veil) and get to the location without worrying about getting your hem wet, your shoes dirty or freezing.
Once you get that cold it’s hard to warm up. Brides who are freezing are NOT focusing on the wonder of marriage, they’re wondering if their feet will ever thaw out.
Tip: There’s a cute saying for every kind of weather, but mostly they were just covering bases. Dress warmly to get where you need to go and then slip into your dress. You’ve got help. Stay warm and clean! And let a smile be your umbrella on your wedding day! And don’t forget your shawl!
Fall is a wonderful time for a wedding but it can be chilly. Wedding and bridesmaids dresses are rarely built for the cold. Here’s a piece of tull to slip on darling isn’t exactly going to help ward off the weather.
And if you’re nervous, you’re often colder.
Answer? Shawls. Pashminas, fake fur, fleece, wool jersey. cuddle up. you’ll be so glad you did!
Tip: Get an extra length of your wedding dress material, find some warm and lovely lining and have a dressmaker sew a shawl. it can be a simple rectangle, but oh, so warm.
Don’t overlook the simple but elegant solution: #10. Make it: I had friend do this for me. The dress was perfect for me and I looked stunning. Now, I know a lot of people so my odds are greater of knowing someone. But if I could find someone in nowhere Pennsylvania who did not just sewing, but design, my guess is you might too! And with a little work on Google or even a (gasp) phonebook, you could find someone.
Tip: What’s great about this is that you get to select the fabrics and the pattern. So everything is just perfect. And sometimes, if you do it with a friend, it’s an incredible amount of fun!
The New and Different #9. Rented: Yep. Renting. It’s not just for tuxes anymore. And they have to dry clean it! Some people are just too sentimental for this.
Tip: go read Elizabeth Oake’s article on this!