Build Community Support at Your Wedding Reception

Your wedding reception is a celebration of your marriage. It’s also a grand time to work the crowd to thank people for attending and to raise support for this remarkable endeavor on which you’ve embarked!

This is an opportunity for your community to see you in action together. You can, if you want choose to offer them the vision of the two of you getting drunk and tearing up the dance floor. That will teach them something about you. But it’s probably not what you wanted taught!

You want to use your reception as an opportunity to let people see how much fun you have together, how much you respect one another, how tender you are with each other.

Tip: Ask dear friends to offer toasts for your future. Let their love shine through and know that their statements of support will help the rest of your community understand their commitment (to your commitment!). Their examples will be contagious.

Visit tables, spend time with people other than the friends you see every day. Yep, talk to the grandparents. Reinstate the receiving line. Let people know how happy you are they are with you. Your being present to your community at your wedding is going to deliver the kind of support you want to have on your wedding day and throughout your marriage.

Holiday Wedding Reception:
Where’s the Mistletoe!!?!!

Hey! What is it? Why have we forgotten that mistletoe thing? It’s your holiday wedding. Hang it everywhere. Give it out as favors. Forget that glass clinking thing. Let people hold up the mistletoe and then you kiss. Then get them back. Hold up your mistletoe and make everyone else kiss. We’ve forgotten how important kissing is. “We’re best friends.” Hey, I have a lot of really good friends. None of them can lay a smacker on me the way my Sweet Pea can. And really, I’m not interested in finding out. But kissing is a lost art. Encourage it. Let your couples remember that they felt this way and got married for a reason too. And there’s no reason why people can’t exchange perfectly appropriate kisses with other people. Parlor games included kissing games for years, even during Victorian Times.

I know, it’s hard for an unmarried person. So work harder at your guest lists! help your friends out! You’re in love, which of your great friends might like your other great friend? Seat them together!

Tip: Buy small packages of of mistletoe as favors and teach people the mistletoe rules (this is a good thing to tuck into the best man or woman speech.) People are old enough to know the rules about appropriate social behavior (and if someone is out of line, there’s nothing more discouraging than an ooh, ugh! said in a carrying kind of voice. It’s much more effective than a smack! and hand a kissing bough onthe dance floor and kissing balls all over the place. Have a good time at your wedding! Giggling at your wedding is generally considered a good thing!