Your Perfect Wedding Toast – Part 3: Practice

And now we come to the last great component in Wedding Priestess’s fail-safe wedding toast plan: Practice. If you never knew why bathroom mirrors were invented, this is it. Take your notes, let your date or spouse know you’ll be in the studio for a while, walk into the bathroom and close the door.  Here’s what you do.

  • Say/Read your toast out loud.
  • Practice the individual sections. Make sure you have the segues down.
  • Rewrite what doesn’t work.
  • Learn it well enough that you only need to glance at the page (unless you’re really nervous).
  • If you’re the nervous type, be truthful and disarming about it. People love it if you tell them what’s going on for you.
  • Practice letting yourself be honest enough that your emotions show through.

Tip: Then day of, tuck your notes into your tux pocket or evening bag, fluff up, take a deep breath in, let it out and knock ’em dead with your wit, compassion and beauty. Start your friends off right!

A great wedding toast: Part Two Composition

The writing is as important as the delivery, so set yourself some goals once yo’ve done the research. Giving a toast is a responsibility you accepted when you accepted the honor of being best man or best woman. It is your job when your child is being married. So, do your homework, write something that reflects your dear one’s wonderful characteristics.

This is a wonderful opportunity to reflect on what your friendship means and how happy you are that your good friend has found a life partner. You have the opportunity to celebrate that friend in front of a whole crowd. And then you get to wish the couple well. You could ensure a seat at their thanksgiving table for the rest of your life if you get this right!

  • Figure out the arc of the speech: thank you, how great your friend is, how perfect a couple they are, why marriage matters, and a toast to happy ever after.
  • Search for that story that you can tell, and tell in a pretty short amount of time, that will really represent how wonderful your friend is. What are the most important points?
  • Talk about what you’ve noticed in your friend’s partner that makes this a wonderful match.
  • Reflect on what you think marriage will bring to your friend, to this couple. Say how happy you are for them.
  • What do you want them to have in their life together? It doesn’t need to be the same old thing… and the same old thing is also lovely!
  • Write them down in talking points. If you need some sentences, that’s ok. But get (at least!) the outline on paper.
  • Don’t use quotes just to use them. Use them if they’re right and they’re important to you.
  • Be as authentic as you can possibly be. Sound like yourself. Let your love shine through.

Tip: Get your speech finished before you get to the wedding weekend. That’s right, you should do it before you get on the airplane. I don’t care how great a public speaker you are, it’s important to be prepared. You don’t want to fall flat on your face here. Don’t memorize. Work from notes. Concentrate on what you mean and not just on what you want to say.

Composing your great wedding toast is Step 2

I don’t care how great a public speaker you are, it’s important to be prepared.  You don’t want to fall flat on your face here. Your goal is to get your speech finished before you get to the wedding weekend. That’s right, do it before you get on the airplane. Giving a toast is a responsibility you accepted when you accepted the honor of being best man or best woman. It is your job when your child is being married. So, do your homework, write something that reflects your dear one’s wonderful characteristics. (And right now, if you’re worrying about memorizing, don’t. Work from notes. That way you can concentrate on what you mean and not just on what you want to say. Uh, Uh, Uh, doesn’t make you look smooth.)

  • Figure out the arc of the speech: thank you, how great your friend is, how perfect a couple they are, why marriage matters, and a toast to happy ever after.
  • Search for that story that you can tell, and tell in a pretty short amount of time, that will really represent how wonderful your friend is. What are the most important points?
  • Talk about what you’ve noticed in your friend’s partner that makes this a wonderful match.
  • Reflect on what you think marriage will bring to your friend, to this couple. Say how happy you are for them.
  • What do you want them to have in their life together? It doesn’t need to be the same old thing… and the same old thing is also lovely!
  • Write them down in talking points. If you need some sentences, that’s ok. But get (at least!) the outline on paper.
  • Use quotes that apply, but don’t use quotes just to use them. Use them if they’re right and they’re important to you.
  • Be as authentic as you can possibly be. Sound like yourself. Let your love shine through.

Tip: This is a wonderful opportunity to reflect on what your friendship means and how happy you are that your good friend has found a life partner. You have the opportunity to celebrate that friend in front of a whole crowd. And then you get to wish the couple well. You could ensure a seat at their thanksgiving table for the rest of your life if you get this right!

A great wedding toast: Part One – Preparation

Wedding Priestess offers you her sincerest congratulations! You’re a good enough friend of the bride and/or groom that you’ve been invited to make a toast. There’s nothing sweeter than to be able to tell a friend publicly how much you love and admire them. We don’t do this often enough, publicly or privately. This is a big deal. So let me make it all easier for you: Here’s a quick 3-part series that will make it all flow easily for you: Before you start building the toast, here are a few things to keep in mind:

  • It should be short. No, really short.
  • It should be complimentary. No “funny” horror stories.
  • It should thank them for the honor of representing their community and being their friend.
  • It should be about the bride and groom and not about you. Talk about why they’re good candidates for this wonderful relationship and right for each other.
  • It always ends with a toast to their future. Wish them the best life possible. (and they say you should always toast with alcohol!)

Tip: Offering your friends respect, encouragement and well-wishes is an art form we would all do well to cultivate. Let’s not let it die! Let’s figure it out and knock the ball out of the park. You do look so much cuter when you’re delivering a heartfelt message, so why not do something wonderful and have it reflect well on you – forever!

Write a Best Man(Woman) Speech that Honors Your Friend

When you’ve been invited to deliver a toast at your friends’ wedding, you wan tto do a good job. You want to look fine, sound intelligent and witty and loving.

I ran into this guy, Peter H. Fisher, over on Ezine Articles. He wrote a very funny article and he’s here to help!

Tip: Go read his article and follow his advice. Or go over to the right and read my article about it! You could look fabulous at your friend’s wedding with just a little preparation!